You both want to get wilder
After an argument, your emotions are running high, says Kimberly Sharky, a certified sex therapist in Chicago. That energy carries over into the bedroom. “During makeup sex, people tend to be more aggressive or passionate than usual, which can be very exciting,” she says.
You’re already primed for action
Physiologically, anger is pretty close to desire. When you’re upset, your heart rate is up, your blood is pumping, and you’re in a heightened state of arousal, explains marriage therapist Neil Rosenthal, the author of Love, Sex and Staying Warm. “Then when you have sex, you experience a huge release.”
Those bonding hormones kick in
Après sex, your brain is flooded with oxytoxin, a hormone that promotes feelings of love and togetherness. This encourages you to move past lingering anger and resentment. “Sex helps people feel cared for, desired, and connected,” Rosental says. “With makeup sex, theres a sense of relief and resolution. Its like you’re both saying, “OK, we’re a couple again.”