Q COULD MY GUY BE FAKING HIS ORGASMS?
A Men can and often do feign a big finish, says Abraham Morgentaler, M.D., associate clinical professor of urology at Harvard Medical School and the author of Why Men Fake It. In fact, a recent University of Kansas survey found that 28 percent of men admit to having bluffed their sexual ecstasy, compared to 67% of women. “If a guy uses a condom, he can escape to the bathroom before his partner notices whether there’s ‘evidence’ left behind,” Mogentaler explains. “Even if sex is unprotected there’s a lot of fluid down there –it might not be obvious to the woman what’s what.”
Most guys pretend to peak for the same reason women do, he says: protect their partner’s feelings and take the pressure off them when they’re tired or not in the mood. (Contrary to popular belief, men aren’t always raring to go). If you discover that your man misled you more than a few times, however, there could be an underlying physical or psychological reason. (Certain medications, like antidepressants, cal also play a role.) Instead of getting mad and blaming yourself, try gently roaching the subjects. Ask him to suggest moves, like touching or talking to him in a certain way that may push him over the edge. If his troubles seem more deep-seated, encourage him to see a doctor or a sex therapist.